Coach Iris Arenson-Fuller, PCC, Vision Powered CoachingPresents
THE WIDOWS EMPOWERMENT COACHING CLUBPRIVATE-MEMBERS ONLY PAGE
Welcome to the Widows Empowerment Coaching Club!-Updated November 2022
This is a special secret page only for paid members of my private community group. Members here may also be members of my free Facebook Community, Grief Help & Hope 4 Widows. This is a women only group for those who want to do more than just join a large group and read and post. Members will meet via a Zoom session, once a month (Time and Date to be announced, but usually a Sunday late afternoon or early evening, Eastern Time.)
Some of you already know me because you have been a member of my Widows Facebook group in the past. Some of you have been part of my community as private clients, or acquaintances. Some of you don’t yet know me, so I thank you for making a wise investment in yourself, and for your trust in me as we get to know each other. We will use the Facebook Secret Group more, so I don’t post often to this page. You will find some exercises I have posted earlier, in case you wish to try them. I may add to this page here and there.
This group has run before. It will now be a bit different. I will not be making presentations to the group as I have done in the past. It will be for the purpose of support, friendship, motivation, building confidence and to get live coaching at each session we meet. Members will contact me in advance to ask for live coaching and to give me a little idea of what you’d like to be coached on, or you may jump in and ask during our sessions. We may not get to everyone, but I will give you some email coaching and support if we don’t get to your particular issue, problem, goal or question. You will find that my reputation for caring about my members and clients is not unfounded and I will be here for you as much as I am able.
This will not be a forum for complaining or self-pity, though all feelings and grief of members at various stages of the widowhood journey will be honored and respected. Members who join are those who want to find ways to honor their spouses, cope with their grief, and also learn to rebuild life as they incorporate that grief into their present and futures.
You have made a positive new commitment to yourself. I am very much looking forward to working with you in this community of women who are ready to grow and learn, as you continue to navigate your grief journey and work on feeling better and improving your life in ways that are important to you. Some of you will have specific goals in mind to work on. Others will be finding and building their goals as we go along. Your needs and goals and challenges will change as time passes and that is normal. I hope you will get to know each other and will share some of your challenges with the group. We all share the commonality of grief, though we may be at different places in our journeys. We also usually have other things in our lives that we may need some help and support with. That is ok.
I created the e book of memes below especially for you as a gift for joining our club. I sent it to you in one of the thank you mails when you joined, but in case you didn’t save it and wish to look at it again, it is here for you. I hope you will like it and will find some, or all of this inspirational and helpful. As we get to know each other, and our other group members, I expect to create different kinds of perks and bonuses for our members.
Sending you light in what I know has felt like a dark place for a while.
Fondly,
Certified, Credentialed Professional Coach (PCC)
My Free Inspirational Meme E-Book
Each of you received this little gift in your email inbox after you joined. In case you wish to look at it again, now or in the future, or had trouble downloading it, here it is for you. I hope you like it. I hope this works. If you are trying to view it here, but it doesn’t, please notify me. Thanks.
There have been some changes in how I do the group since this was first created, so please disregard the info about phone calls for our group sessions. They will all be via Zoom (though sometimes some members may choose to call in.)
My websites are www.visionpoweredcoaching.com
and
www.widowscoach.com (Widows Coach is also part of my coaching practice, Vision Powered Coaching. I don’t only work with women or with widows, though._
MEMBER PERK:
If you refer a member to this group who actually joins and remains for at least three months, you can earn some perks. It may be a modest amount of cash, a small Amazon certificate or some other surprise. New members bring new energy and excitement to our group. Though I do not want this group to ever be really big, I would very much like it to grow some, both for the benefit of the group and of course, for the benefit of my business. The subscription fee I charge is way lower than what is charged for other coaching group programs. The monthly fee is a bit higher for those already not part of my community, but if you recommend someone who continues membership for at least three months, you and they will be charged the community fee permanently as a thank you. (They have to mention your name when they contact me, though).
Note to Members. Once you register and pay for the group, I will be notified of membership and payment status. I will change the links for each meeting and will send you an email and/or a FB message or text to notify you of the link for the month. This will happen a few days before each monthly session. I will require registration for each meeting, though you are a member, to avoid hacking and to ensure only our paid members are on our Zooms. I also require this so I will know in advance who is planning to be present for each upcoming session. If you are unable to make it, due to a change in plans, I do expect to be notified privately in advance. Some sessions will have only a few people and others will have more. I hope participation will grow. Please attend prepared to do some real sharing and work. Don’t worry if you are shy, or don’t easily share. The group and I will support and help you along.
If you are are unable to attend and are a paid-up member, you will get the audio recordings to listen to. (I will need your email addresses). Recordings are never to be shared with anyone else outside of our community, no matter how well you know them. If you are nervous about doing Zooms, it is easy, but you should have a reliable Internet connection or the instability of yours may affect us all and impede our sessions. If you absolutely don’t want to be on video or don’t have a camera for your computer or phone, you will also be able to call in. The best way to access, though, is to do so with your browser, by typing in the link I provide. I do prefer that we do use video, because seeing each other creates more of a feelings of closeness and community as we get to know each other.
There will also be a secret FB group that we may or may not use a lot. I am not sure right now. Sometimes I will also send you things via email. Again, make sure you never give these recordings or links or secret FB page to anyone who is not a paid member. I invite guests occasionally and you may also do so, but it has to be cleared first with me.
Thank you.
If you have any difficulty, please let me know.
Best,
Iris
Big Goals &Little Goals
KNOW THAT YOU CAN…
You can create a new life in spite of your grief. It won’t be the same but you can have new joy and peace again one day.
● The key to getting to that place (for most of us) is truly committing to it and doing the work. Yes, work!
When people have been through loss, grief, stress, there are some other factors. There can be fear, guilt and not believing you have the ability or right to even wanting to have good things in your life.
● WANTING – is passive, requires no action;familiar, safe, comfortable, risk-averse.Wanting creates more wanting – it does not create results.
● COMMITTING – active, requires action; increases focus on the result and reduces mind-chatter. It’s solution-focused; creates progress towards results.
Five steps to making a commitment that will get you results
1. TAKE INVENTORY of what you want
2. GET HONEST about whether you are willing and ready to commit
3. MAKE THE DECISION to commit. Do it in writing.
4. HONOR YOUR COMMITMENT until you get your result
5. RE-EVEALUATE & RE-AFFIRM YOURCOMMITMENT – do this on a regular basis.
This written statement represents a promise to yourself that you will take action until you achieve your result. Think of this as a legally binding agreement with yourself.
I AM COMMITTED TO:
___________________________________________________________
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STEP 4: Honor your commitment
One thing we know for sure is that we will encounter obstacles, so you can be prepared and plan ahead for them.
Identify three potential obstacles or challenges:
1. _________________________________________________________
2.________________________________________________________
3.__________________________________________________________
4._________________________________________________________
5.________________________________________________________
NOW CHOOSE ONE THING…THAT’S RIGHT..ONE THING TO WORK ON IN THE NEXT WEEKS UP UNTIL OUR NEXT SESSION. CHOOSE A SMALL, DOABLE GOAL, BUT SOMETHING THAT IS IMPORTANT TO YOU. CHOOSE A GOAL WHERE RESULTS CAN BE SEEN, MEASURED AND DESCRIBED.
You may wish to write out a plan or strategy addressing each of the potential obstacles you have listed above.
1.___________________________________________________________________________
2._________________________________________________________________________
3.______________________________________________________________________
4.______________________________________________________________________
5.____________________________________________________________________________
To Be Continued
If this is too detailed for you, for your comfort level, then use it as a guide in terms of the steps or components you need to be able to achieve what you want to do.
KEEP TAKING INVENTORY
Continuously re-evaluate and re-affirm your commitment
Every month take inventory of whether or not YOUR ACTIONS are aligned with the result you are committed to.
What actions do you take currently that are aligned with your commitment to this result?
What actions (or inactions) are NOT aligned with your commitment to this result?
Based on this assessment of your current actions/inactions, what is your level of commitment?
0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
(0 = not committed at all, 10 = totally committed) What will you do differently to bring your commitment to a 10?