Have you lost a close loved one?
What parts of the person you lost through death are you integrating with the way you are?
What behaviors, ways of thinking, quirks and interests your loved one possessed, do you find yourself adopting as your own? Sometimes we take on some of their characteristics as a deliberate way of feeling close to them and honoring them. Sometimes we do it unconsciously. For many of us, this is all part of our process and is one way of beginning to tame some of our deepest grief as we figure out how to go on.
Loss is complex.
When you lose a loved one, you miss them so much, but you also miss who you were when you were with them and how they affected your ways of thinking and being. You may not have been fully aware of that when they were still with you.
I’m Coach Iris
I’ve lived through some devastating losses and life changes. I’ve learned how to live with grief, as well as how to find ways to reinvent my life. I’m doing it all over again now, after the sudden and terrible loss of my beloved son, just over a year ago. I’m learning how to cope with this new and powerful pain and some elements of grief I’d thought I’d conquered, or made friends with, that have resurfaced. Grief recycles even when we thought we’d understood and tamed it!
I help others learn how to live with their own grief and to make meaning of life again. You might ask how I can do that while I’m still grieving my own fresh, horrendous loss.
My grief is a part of me and always will be. Yours is a part of you. It’s an extension and dimension of your love. Grief is not finite. It doesn’t disappear with time. It changes in nature, but it stays. It walks alongside of you, though it sometimes hides and jumps out unexpectedly.
Yet in order for us to create meaning and purpose of our losses so we can still live our lives, can once again thrive despite our grief, we need to figure out how, and what paths to explore.
Though my newest pain from loss is still fresh and yes, still raw, and I am still figuring out what’s next for me, I can help you figure out your own next steps if you’re ready for a partner who truly understands. Let’s talk! We are on a similar journey. I’ve traveled this road before, though each journey and each person is unique.
A Process
Coaching is a process that trains practitioners to help clients find the answers within themselves. Your answers don’t come from me. I just aid you in finding what you need, and in taking action to create more of what you realize you want. My own experiences can sometimes help add to your understanding and my compassion is strong. That’s who I am, but you definitely have the knowledge and ability within yourself, even if you don’t yet know it.
Let’s talk!
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