There’s something that has irritated me for a while. No it hasn’t triggered me! I get that language evolves over time. I embrace change in various forms and believe change is usually a healthy thing, but perhaps I’m just more of a linguistic purist than I like to admit.
I have a serious question for you today. I really wonder at times if I am living in my own little world, or in an alternate universe? Do you ever feel like that? I’ll tell you what has made me feel that way.
I hope this article will help people who haven’t been through this, to understand some of the challenges widowers and widowers face after death of a spouse. I also hope it will validate some of the things that you might be experiencing if you have lost your spouse or partner.
In my work with widows and others who are grieving the loss of loved ones, clients have reported the discovery of some difficult secrets when going through the possessions of …
Do you listen to and trust your inner survivor? Why is that important?
Have you ever felt you lived in a world in which you could predict and count on very little? I think we all have felt that way at times. More and more people are feeling that way right now, sadly.
There’s Covid-19, global warming, constant natural disasters, terrorists, unemployment, and much suffering all over. It can sometimes seem too depressing to read or watch the news, let alone figure out how to get past our own personal baggage and problems.
This post about “lockdown loneliness” is for you if you live alone, regardless of the reason you do. It was written for widows in a group I run, but certainly applies to anyone without a companion now who is self-isolating and feeling the effects in this era of Covid 19. Even those who have someone else in the household may find this useful.
When people are grieving deeply, they still associate the loved one’s belongings with him or her as a person. Eventually they come to realize they are only things. The things may evoke important memories or feelings that make people continue to feel sentimental about them. They really do not represent the person you loved and have lost.
If I have learned anything over the years, it is that I must concentrate as much as I can on the colors in front of me and not on the rainy and the dim days.
I think we heal to an extent but perhaps never completely. We are forever changed.
Our messages from dreams may be an important part of our grief journey or grief work. The grief journey is usually not one that has an easy-to-spot final destination on a map.