Are You A Birth Parent Who Has Placed a Child For Adoption Recently?
In the Past?
As birth parents, I know that you have already made what is probably going to turn out to be the most difficult decision of your entire life.
Now that your child is in his or her new home, your counseling from the agency is probably finished, or you may be hesitant to return there, worrying about the memories.
I also know that no matter how much counseling you got from the agency or attorney working with you to facilitate the adoption of your child, you could still be carrying a heavy load of grief, and maybe even regret or guilt at times.
It doesn’t really matter whether it was an open or closed adoption. Sometimes birth parents carry around their grief or guilt about placing a child for decades after they have done it.
It doesn’t matter even if you picked a fabulous family and you like them very much, as well as know they are doing a great job raising your child.
It still often hurts to wake up and remember that your child is gone. It can feel very much like someone you love has died, although you know your baby or child is alive and hopefully thriving.
In fact, maybe letters and photos you get, or visits you may have, if it was an open adoption, show you how well he or she is doing in the new family, but you still hurt.
Maybe you feel stuck in your sadness as a birth parent and want some help figuring out how to go on and be happy again.
Maybe you have no idea now what you want to do with the next years of your life.
Maybe you need some support in getting back on track with plans you had before, but have abandoned.
Maybe you need relationship help.
Maybe you are unsure how to speak about your beloved child, because so many people have little or no understanding of the kind of decision you made as birth parents, or how brave it really was.
Maybe you need help understanding what your role will be in your child’s life, or how to let go if you still have contact with the adoptive family.
Maybe you have some other thought, fear, concern, that isn’t mentioned here, but you would like to talk about it with me and get the help you’ve been searching for.
Maybe there are people in your life who don’t know about you placing a child, and you don’t know if you should tell them, or how to do it?
Did You Place a Child Many Decades Ago?
Have you been contacted by your adult child?
Do you have mixed feelings?
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